In Forgive & Forget, Lewis B. Smedes show you how to move form hurting and hating to healing and reconciliation. With the lessons of forgiveness, you can. 10 quotes from Lewis B. Smedes: ‘To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.’, ‘Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed. Smedes gives us pointers on how to do it. I’ll be happy if this summary whets your appetite to read the whole book. Forward: “If we wait to forgive people until.

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The section on Confusion mentioned having a disagreement with someone that manifested itself over time and to a point that we no longer remembered what we were angry about.

This is not a call to forgive people for being slow in traffic, as irritating as that may be, but for serious offenses that wound people for their entire lives and that have generational ripples.

The Art of Forgiving ratings. We give the monsters the last word. Rena’s name before being changed by the officials at Ellis Island was Renske. I read an article recently on forgiveness and this book was referenced several times so I decided to read this and delve deeper into the study of forgiveness.

As the author reminds us at the close of his excellent book, “If you are trying to forgive; even if you manage forgiving in fits and starts, if you forgive today, hate again tomorrow, and have to forgive again the day after, you are a forgiver. It was very well written; the author certainly can paint a picture with words, which made it a fairly easy read. Many resources on forgiveness set forth an ethic that seems unrealistic, almost Herculean.


There were numerous examples from the author’s past as well as stories he was aware of. What makes this book worthwhile? There the book was lacking. His word choices were down to earth and straight to the topic at hand while giving incredible thought provoking examples to illustrates his points.

You forgive in freedom and then you move on to greater freedom. Jan 23, Nathan Albright rated it it was amazing Shelves: To stay angry at a person changes us and wastes energy. I ended torgive this book with the feeling that there were a lot of people I needed to work through this process with, but I was left hanging as to what was the best way to begin.

Lewis B. Smedes Quotes (Author of Forgive and Forget)

Mar 31, Amir rated it it was amazing. My library Help Advanced Book Search. The basics of forgiving are the same for everyone. Clear, concise, and relatable. Only free people can choose to start over with someone who has hurt them.

This is why, for all of us, no matter how badly we have been hurt or when and why it happened, the remedy has one name: I have heard that before but this book explained this process in a way that makes sense. Breaking down the process of healing into corgive stages and offering stories of real people’s experience throughout, this wise book provides hope and solace for all who long for the peace that comes with forgiveness.

Forgiving is presented as a healing act for both the wronged and the wrongdoer, but not as an easily accomplished fprget. Refresh and try again. Smedes, Sex for Christians: It didn’t give me the 3 step program I was hoping for that would solve all my problems, but it was good. You did not deserve the hurt.

It went deep, deep enough to lodge itself in lwwis memory. Freedom is strength; you now you have it when you have the power to forgive. I thought there were a couple of contradictions, and I disagreed greatly with one major aspect which he seemed to later contradict himself about.


For all of us who have been wounded by another and struggled to understand and move beyond our feelings of hurt and anger, Lewis Smedes’s classic book on forgiveness shows that it is possible to heal our pain and find room in our forfive to forgive. A Little at a Time.

Forgive and Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don’t Deserve by Lewis B. Smedes

It’s based on Christian believes and therefore I could not digest all what’s written. For those tired of the “steps” process i. An excellent and very readable book on forgiveness and healing. In this game nobody is an expert. Preview — Forgive and Forget by Lewis B. Breaking down the process of healing into four stages He married Doris Dekker. Short readbut enjoyable. Smedes then describes the four phases of the journey toward forgiveness.

Forgive and Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don’t Deserve

Check lewix reference at page top or the links below for resource guides on related topics. It was because he did not trust me to travel alone. Sep 23, Fuad Alsultan rated it liked it.

The book is by a Christian author, but it leewis not particularly heavy on the explicit Christian references; in fact, they are few and far between, and so this book may be useful to non-Christians as well.