Robert Burney. · Rating details · ratings · 12 reviews. This joyously inspirational Spiritual book presents a set of beliefs about the meaning and purpose. “The most powerful book I’ve ever encountered on codependency is Robert Burney’s Codependence: Dance of the Wounded Souls. Read it and reread it. Robert Burney is the author of the Joyously Inspirational Spiritual book: Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls Joyously Inspirational Spiritual Book.
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Return to Book Page. Preview thf Codependence by Robert Burney. This joyously inspirational Spiritual book presents a set of beliefs about the meaning and purpose of life from a Cosmic Perspective that combines Twelve Step Recovery Principles with Ancient Metaphysical Truths.
It explains why a New Age has dawned in human consciousness on planet Earth and explores the interrelationship between subjects that range from the Bible, Buddha, This joyously inspirational Spiritual book presents a set of beliefs about the meaning and purpose of life from a Cosmic Perspective that combines Twelve Step Recovery Principles with Ancient Metaphysical Truths. It explains why a New Age has dawned in human consciousness on planet Earth and explores the interrelationship between subjects that range from the Bible, Buddha, and Jesus to quantum physics, molecular biology, and AIDS.
The belief system the book is based upon kf exemplified by this quote from The Dance of Wounded Souls: We are Spiritual Beings having a human experience. We are here to experience and learn, to Touch and to feel. This is a life-changing, life-affirming book. Hardcoverpages.
To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up. To ask other readers questions about Codependenceplease sign up. Lists with This Book. Gobert book is not yet featured on Listopia. Forster Thus, five stars! Apr 09, Teshamae rated it liked it. Where fear, guilt, and shame are used to try to control children’s behavior because parents believe that their children’s behavior reflects their self-worth.
In other words, if little Johnny is a well-behaved, “good danec then his parents are good people. If Johnny acts out, and misbehaves, then there is something wrong with his parents. In a Codependent society we are taught, in the name of “love,” to try to control those we love, by manipulating and shaming them, to try to get them to do the right things – in order to protect our own ego-strength.
Our emotional experience of love is of something controlling: Love that is shaming and abusive is an insane, ridiculous concept. Just as insane and ridiculous as the concept burnwy murder and war in the name of God. Because we had no tools for reprogramming our egos and healing our emotional wounds culturally approved grieving, training and initiation rites, healthy role models, etc.
Codependence allows us to survive physically but causes us to feel empty and dead inside. Codependence is a defense system that causes us coedpendence wound ourselves. Some people, when they first get into Recovery, when codependehce first start on a healing path, mistakenly believe that they are supposed to take down their defenses and learn to trust everyone. That is a very dysfunctional belief. It is necessary to take down the dysfunctional defense systems but we have to replace them with defenses that work.
We have to have a defense system, we have to be able to protect ourselves. There is still a hostile environment out there full of wounded Adult Burneg whom it is not safe to trust.
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We, in our Codependence, have radar systems which cause us to be attracted to, and attract to us, the people, who for us personally, are exactly the most untrustworthy or unavailable or smothering or abusive or whatever we need to repeat our patterns individuals – exactly the ones who will “push our codependrnce.
Unfortunately in childhood the people whom we trusted the most – were the most familiar – hurt us the most. So the effect is that we keep woundd our patterns and being given the reminder that it is not safe to trust ourselves or other people Once we begin healing we can see that the Truth is that it is not safe to trust as long as we are reacting out of the emotional wounds and attitudes of our childhoods.
Once we start Recovering, then we can begin to see that on a Spiritual level these repeating behavior patterns are opportunities to heal the childhood wounds.
The process of Recovery teaches us how roebrt take down the walls and protect ourselves in healthy ways – dajce learning what healthy boundaries are, how to set them, and how to defend them.
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It teaches us to be discerning in our choices, to ask for what we need, and to be assertive and Loving in meeting our own needs. Of course many of us have to first get used to the revolutionary idea that it is all right for us to have needs. In my Update Newsletter for OctoberI talked about a mother and daughter that I had done some work with.
Several times a year I have counseling sessions with one or both of them as they have opportunities for robsrt in their recovery. Earlier this week I had a session with the mother. Her daughter had once again engaged in behavior that was dangerous and life threatening. She was very upset about an thee that her daughter had experienced – and was putting a lot of energy into blaming the daughter’s boyfriend.
She kept saying how controlling, possessive, and abusive this boyfriend was and how she just couldn’t understand it. She felt that her daughter had chosen the boyfriend over her own mother and out of the deep hurt she was feeling she was blaming. She mentioned several times how she had said to her daughter, “What is wrong with you! After letting her vent for a long period of time, I brought her back to focusing on her Spiritual belief system and applying the Serenity prayer to what was happening.
I reminded her that the reason her daughter was in a relationship that was controlling, possessive, and abusive was because that was the only type of relationship the daughter was familiar with. I reminded her that she, in her concern and love for her daughter, out of her fear of her daughters self destructive behavior, had been controlling, possessive, and abusive. I pointed out that codependemce was abusive to say something like, “what is wrong with you.
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Doing something “wrong” does not mean there is something wrong with us. The daughter was in fact, just repeating her codependent patterns – and to me, her behavior was not only understandable, but very predictable.
And repeating the patterns was not a sign that she had not grown. This was a new opportunity for growth at a higher level of consciousness for her – a perfect part of her growth process, not some regression or slip into old behavior.
We make progress gradually. The reality of codependence is that we get in relationship with people who feel familiar – people who will repeat our childhood emotional dynamics.
We keep getting involved with people with whom we can recreate the emotional dynamics from our childhood in some way. Great for anyone that has robrrt with addiction. May 22, Cj rated it it was ok. I think this is a cop-out. My review Very interesting perspective on codependency. I think a foundation of the 12 step recovery process is helpful in understanding the authors world view.
Believing we are Spirits having a Human experience also helps in embracing his concepts. I found this book to be intriguing, informative and useful. Everyone has an addiction, everyone is wounded and codependende live in a codependent culture.
This book helps explain our human condition and provides meaningful strategies to navigate through our jo My review Very interesting perspective on codependency.
This book helps explain our human condition and provides meaningful strategies to navigate through our journey. Souks 22, Jennifer Sullivan rated it it was amazing.
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It was THIS small book that helped me draw a parallel between my damaged inner child and the codependent behaviour that destroys my relationships as an adult.
This book is short but, very intense! Through the lessons I learned, I was able to pin point why I engage in destructive patterns and, how I can “cure” them by addressing wounds that are decades old. Highly recommended for anyone willing to “go deep” to finally heal themselves.
Mar 25, Carlton Brown rated it it was amazing. This bkrney a mind-opening book for those wishing to heal from their abusive childhoods. You can seek counseling with the author afterwards to begin your healing journey as you still have to do the work! Central to this book is as children we learn to develop codependent relationships with our abusive parents or guardians, which we seek to replicate in our later adult lives until we find resolution healing. This This is a mind-opening book for those wishing to heal from their abusive childhoods.
This codependence is an emotional and behavioral defense system adopted by our ego minds to address our need to physically survive as a child; which is wholly inappropriate for our adult lives and intimate relationships. These emotional responses somehow fail to xodependence because ego reprogramming healing invariably does not occur in our lives i.
This means as an adult we keep reacting to our childhood emotional programming wounded childwhilst wpunded out our inner critical parent voice i. Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships; David Riccois that we are attracted to and attract to us soul mates… people who feel familiar and will repeat our childhood emotional dynamics. Ironically, we do this until we awaken to our need to heal, which was codependencs we subconsciously sought out that codependencw in the first place.
The process of Recovery teaches a number of dznce firstly we are encouraged to develop a loving and participatory relationship with the little child we abandoned we begin to love ourselveswhilst at the same time setting healthy boundaries with our partners and ourselves. In this regard its helpful seeing people as a combination of perfect spiritual beings which we all are and their emotionally driven behaviors.
In so doing we can come to accept and forgive, and ultimately show loving-kindness and compassion toward ourselves and our partners, whilst at the same time we can work to transform our own emotionally driven behaviors do the grieving work.
Great if both partners can do this together. A chord that struck me, which is pivotal to the healing process is our need to feel unconditionally loved by our higher source; but this will not come easily to most I feel experiential or cognitive. Here I experienced Universal Consciousness God from the dimension of Unity, bathed in bliss-love-awareness for an eternity, as I watched the universe born and evolve its mission.
I now have indelibly emblazoned in my mind the irrefutable fact that I have always been and always will be loved by Universal Consciousness – as we all are; that somehow grounds and rebalances you and renders your entire anger mute. If you read this book, and wish to know more about how to experientially access this eternal love then please connect with my blogs at www. Yeah, so there were some solid insights into codependance, it’s roots and how it’s negative thinking persists and impacts lives.
That solid content is why I’m upgrading from 2 to 3 stars.